How to truly protect our children from drugs and other negative influences

Jun 10

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Free Your Child From Screen Addiction

Apr 17

 

I just finished a new book!

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I wrote this book to help parents who are struggling to get control over their children’s obsession with screens.  It is imperative that we address this problem sooner than later.  The authentic happiness of our children depends on it.

I see parents helplessly applying desperate and extreme measures to gain even a little bit of control. They give warnings. They make idle threats. They even punish their children. Still, they are ineffective in stopping the screen addiction. Some parents may believe their bribes and punishments are working. However, the fact remains: nothing is working. Not consistently, and definitely not permanently.  As a parent myself, I have to wonder if deep down these parents know that their attempts are futile.

When a parent-child relationship is characterized by, “You live under my roof, and you will obey my rules!” authentic communication is difficult.  Children in this type of environment react in one of three ways: 1) They may appease their parents on the surface while doing what they want under the radar.  2) They may simply rebel and fight back. 3) Perhaps the worst, they may simply comply to authority with no regard for how they really feel, and never find their own voices or grow to be self-actualized adults.

Our goal here is to authentically solve the screen addiction problem.  My goal with this book  is to help you do just that.

My book, Free Your Child From Screen Addiction will be available as a free down load for 5 days on Amazon, starting Saturday, 4/30/2016  

Please feel free to let your friends know about the free down load so they can all get a copy.

 

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Importance of forgiving

Jul 26

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Forgiving is not always an easy task.  We definitely cannot forgive others if we do not know how to forgive ourselves.

We are hard on ourselves. It seems that we believe the road to being a good human is to make ourselves suffer whenever we fail at something.

The opposite is true.

As we are harsh with ourselves, we lose energy, creativity, and the power to move forward.  We often fall into depression and negative self-judgement.  Depression causes us to become powerless.

We must give young people the room to make mistakes.

But first, to really teach forgiveness and self-compassion, we must start the practice with ourselves.

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A proof of good parenting

Jul 21

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Alaa Murabit’s Ted talk

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Importance of good grades

Jul 11

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There is nothing wrong with students getting good grades. Knowing how to work hard and striving for one’s best is a positive attribute.

However, for many, getting good grade becomes the primary goal.

More important than getting good grades, getting into top colleges, and getting top paying careers is finding work that gives the individual a sense of fulfillment and joy.

If we focus on finding work that we love, then in the end, we will have lived a life worth living.  Isn’t that what we want for our kids? Isn’t authentic happiness what we want for our kids?  Wouldn’t that create a better world?

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Don’t Make Mountains out of Molehills

Jan 29

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I was speaking with the father of a thirteen year old girl.  They had just had a fight about the quality of her work in math.

She has been performing poorly, and not asking for help in proactive ways.  Her teacher feels that her statement, “I don’t know how to do this, can you help me,” indicates laziness.

What she is displaying, in truth, is that she has given up on herself.  Most often kids give up on trying when they think that they are doomed for failure.  Why should she try if her effort will lead to nothing?  It is better, in her opinion, to avoid doing something than deal with the humiliation of failure.

She is plagued with what affects many of us in different phases of our lives.  Some even live this way without knowing that they are living this way. They just live with a bad self-image underlining their lives.

What we could do for kids who are going through this is to break down the challenge/questions into smaller sizes.  We should go back as far as we need to in order to build back her foundation of knowledge, so that she can get back on her task with sense of confidence.

Often times what stands in our way is our own self-doubt.  The mountain that stands before us often is not really a mountain… Usually it is just a little mole hill.

 

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