Hello everyone! I am sorry to have been away for such a long time.
I am back now committed to bringing you useful information for your work as a parent, as a teacher and as a child care worker.
First, to be at your best with children, you must always take care to do the following:
- Be loving to yourself.
- Have fun, be fun.
- Take time to be joyful.
- Be in the moment, be yourself
- Always be kind to yourself.
- Be self aware but don’t indulge in harsh self criticisms
My focus lately is on the topic of teaching kindness and empathy. I am going to share everything I learn about this with you because it is very important and very urgent for all of us.
For starters, be very mindful of your actions with your children. Be genuinely kind, forgiving and empathetic. Be kind and empathetic to others in front of them. Be fully present. Be in the moment with them so that they can learn how to do the same.
I’ll be back with more on the hows on this very important topic. Thank you for joining me!Read More
Judging can be one of the most pleasurable things. We can make clear sense of a person or an event, and walk away feeling self-satisfied that we got that one figured out.
There is also a survival instinct in all of us that has used this sense, judging, to keep ourselves alive. We’ve had to judge dangerous animals and environments, and in that sense, judging has been a positive aspect of humanity.
We are an evolving race however, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and perhaps even spiritually.
There are types of judging that stunt the evolution of that development.
The danger of this type of judging that we do is that our children watch us do it and learn to do the same.
We teach them to stunt their ability to understand another person, another race, another culture, another anything or another anyone.
This evening I met a very nice woman who turned out to be someone that I would love to get to know… and luckily for me, I got the chance to do just that.
When I first saw her, however, I saw that she was extremely made up. My adoptive mother was extremely made up all the time, and I grew up hating it. I have negative associations with too much make up…
When I first saw this woman, many thoughts sped through my mind about who she must be based on how she was dressed. I imagined that she was snobby and shallow, and probably an unpleasant person. When she tried to make eye-contact, I pretended to be looking at something else.
Later in the evening, I had to sit at the same table with her, and was forced to get to know her. She was nothing like the person I had judged her to be.
She was witty, humble, highly intelligent, graceful, kind, generous, and warm. I received my message loud and clear, and will now focus on when I judge. When do you find yourself judging? How can we learn to evolve beyond this behavior?
Random fantastic things happen all the time to some people, and we call it luck.
I’d rather think that we make our own forward motion, and meet with those events that can take us closer to whatever it is that we are pursuing.
The best kind of luck that we can create though, I am discovering, is knowing how to be in the moment and know to enjoy the journey to wherever you are going.
Why not? All of my life I have been running to something. I have always been very much a type A person, focused on goals. I was never really satisfied, and was always busy working on something.
I had implemented this in my life, believing that I would be more driven this way… but really, I wasn’t living in each moment in any real sense.
A dear friend said this to me today, “if what you want to accomplish is so wonderful, why shouldn’t the journey to that place be just as wonderful?”
I agree with him 1000%. Why not? It is foolish to lose out on the “now.”